highschool sweethearts

I can guarentee you know a couple, like I did, the highschool sweethearts...they've been together for as long as you can remember, and just like a bad american teen rom com, he works at the local supemarket, that cute checkout boy who helps you pack your groceries on a saturday morning, and she got into university but was forced to drop out before the end of first year due to falling pregnant. Now don't get me wrong this could work, sometimes they truely love each other, and they won't really start losing their looks untill they're at least 35, but thats just not me. For those of you like me who get bored far too quickly these roles have been overplayed and the scipts already written, i like a bit of variation, some naughtiness in my life. Now im all for those single mothers who were pregnant at 16, they are heroines in my eyes, they'll be partying with they're daughters when i'll still be forcing mine to sit and have coffee with me, but married woman at 16 are so tied down. Think about it, a kid can go anywhere in the world with you, they believe in the same things you do, will always love and support you because they know no better, but a man..? They are the downfall of dreams that involve freedom...believe me

dirty talk

What turns you on? Be truthful, not with me but with yourself, if your not yet comfortable with your skin how can anyone else? Ok so next time your having sex and your staring at the ceiling thinking 'shit did i leave the oven on' or 'damn i could be finishing that paper on fish dissection right now' you need to realise a little excitiment should be injected into your sex life..whether it's bondage, anal or simpley doing it behind your old bike shed get out of the routine and take control.
I can say this because i have never really been in a rut, and even if the sex isn't great my friends will vouch for me, the stories afterwards are always good fun. For example the first time a man talked dirrrty to me i was so caught off by his inappropriate questions i was answering them like a spotty teenager on a bad quiz show..*Ozzie "Do you like it when i fuck you hard?" Me "Erm yes sir, no sir, i really have no clue sir, can i pass on this one?"
My point being even if your biggest fantasy ends up more comical than orgasmic, you would never know unless you took the plunge, and besides it makes for some good friendship giggles for years to come

roll off stay off

How acceptable is it to be drunk during sex? There are experiences in the past where me and the person I slept with shared a couple of beers before hand, we were tipsy, it lightened the mood and introduced some much needed confidence into the bedroom. Then there is that one experience where I was so compeletely out of my mind on alcohol that the only part of sex I recall is watching the person roll off next to me and the words "is that it" floating uncontrollably out of my mouth, and as they stormed off hurt and embarrassed the only thought in my head was "how far from the toilet am I?" This is a dangerous drunk, I was lucky the person I bedded was a friend of sorts.
The problem with drinking is somtimes you don't know when to stop. If you are one of these people it probably says alot about your sex life too, that is why you need solid friends who know when enough is enough. Work out what your aim of the night is and take it from there...
What I am trying to say is, if you are going to have sex, it's probably best to stick to a limit of 2 light beers, and if you are going to drink, take a friend with good judgment skills along for the night.

how many is too many?

How many people do you have to sleep with before you gain a degrading title? Does your age get considered? Your personality? If I told you the number of people I had slept with would you automatically judge me? I suppose it would depend on how open minded the person judging would be, and whether you knew if i was a man or a woman. If you know nothing else about the people I bed, know this, there is a story behind each one, I remember each one and don't regret any.

I know people who have met and stayed with one person most of their life and they are desperate to have a 'break' or simply cheat on their other half. Then I know people who have cheated, or waited out their 5 year relationship only to realise thats not the path they wanted to walk. Then there are people like me, who just don't settle into a relationship so find comfort and sex in multiple partners with no steady role.
Don't judge a person on the number of people they have slept with, but by the number of people they brag to afterwards.

the list

When i turned 16 a close friend with a similar outlook on life and sex as myself shared a piece of advice with me, I cannot say if it's good or bad advice but I took it, processed it and still use it to this day, if nothing else it injects a little fun into my life. The list is conducted of 6 names, all these names are invidiual to each person, but the title behind each name is the same. The names on the list entitle me to have sex with any of them at any time in any place, irrelevant of my other half or their other half.

1. My best friend's brother/sister
2. My brother/sister's best friend
3. My boss
4. The boy/girl next door
5. The family best friend
6. My teacher/lecturer

If any one of these people make a move you are given a free pass to react how you choose, however I wouldn't advise you tell your other half, that could end badly. There are no rules or guidlines for the list, as you will have guessed by now only bored, eternally single or bitchy people have one...

how it feels to be the other woman

What makes men cheat on their other half? Is it the thrill? Being able to fulfill a fantasy? I believe it's knowing they still can. What makes a woman cheat? I was jelous, I felt wanted, perhaps even needed, even though looking back it could have been any woman. I justified it by belittling his girlfriend, it was her fault, and his fault and not one part my own. The deal breaker was that this girlfriend, was once a best friend of mine, we had just grown apart. So is cheating on a friend worse than cheating on a stranger? Absoluetly, I had a duty to her which I not only broke, but stomped into the ground then rubbed in her face.
It must have been painful and humiliating for her, but the worst part is a year later she has moved on, put it behind her, and I still feel guilty, regretful of ruining a solid friendship. More than that while she found her trust in a new boyfriend, I am the one scared of relationships, unable to believe that any man can be faithful.
I guess the thing to understand when your the other woman is, the joke is on you.